🔴Ayatollah Bahjat's advice to Ali Reza Panahian after he had married the new couple When we asked Ayatollah Bahjat (ra) to give us some advice after he had married us, he said, “I will give you some advice, but when I advise the husband, the wife should put her hands over her ears and not hear what I say. And when I advise the wife, the husband should put his hands over his ears and not hear the advice that is for the wife.” Then he said, “So which of you will be first?” I saw that he was serious, so I moved my hands toward my ears. He said, “It is alright if you don’t put your hands over your ears, but try not to repeat the advice that is for your wife to her in the future.” A couple should not constantly repeat words of advice to each other and keep offending each other. The result that comes from repeating certain issues or reminding a spouse of his/her faults will be nothing but bringing a coldness to their relationship. Today in our society, young couples are taught how to get their rights legally if their spouse has a problem in his/her behavior! #PanahianFamilyTips @PanahianEN

🌸Worshiping by behaving well with one’s family The main path for getting close to God, the Almighty, is by way of the family. This means interacting with the same, repetitive people whom you see every day and to whom you may find it hard at times to continuously show affection. Have you heard how some people say worshiping is nothing other than helping people? But perhaps it would be more correct to say that worshiping is nothing other than serving one’s family! We think we are doing something very special when we behave well with others who are not repetitive for us and with people whom we are not in touch with every day. Therefore, we unburden our conscience by thinking we are behaving well in society. But behaving well must first start with the family. #PanahianFamilyTips @PanahianEN

🔻Why don't you dress well at home?! The most important place to "be the best" is when you are with your family. The first priority is for you to behave well with your family. Good behavior, caring for others, expressing love, and all good behavioral and spiritual traits must first be shown with the family. Why don't you dress well when you are at home? Do you only wear good clothes when you want to leave the house? Imam Khomeini would iron his pajamas when he was at home. Why don’t you dress well in front of your spouse? Dress well in front of your wife. #PanahianFamilyTips @PanahianEN

🎁 The best gift that spouses can give each other 🔻First, calmness! #PanahianFamilyTips #Video @PanahianEN

Where are you looking to gain spiritual rewards? God has made it much easier to increase spirituality when a person is among his family than in any other place. For example, it is said, “If a man makes one of the women of his intimate family happy (his aunt, sister, daughter, etc.), God will arrange a special place for him in Heaven close to Himself.” [Kafi, vol. 6, p. 6] For example, take some fruit for your sister on your way home. Say, "I knew you love this kind of fruit, so I thought I would bring you some." God will bestow great blessings on you for the joy that you’ve created in your sister's heart in that moment. Knowing this, where do we usually go to seek spiritual rewards?! #PanahianFamilyTips @PanahianEN

💞God honors marriage. 👉🏼 Ask the bride and groom to pray for you. #Video #PanahianFamilyTips @PanahianEN

Single people are missing something! A single person is missing a lot, because he cannot gain many easy spiritual rewards that are gained at home! For example, it has been said in the traditions that if a father buys gifts for his family or something from the market that makes them happy, it is as if he is giving abundant charity to a group of needy people. [Amali Shaykh Saduq, p. 577] This tradition does not mean that families are in desperate need of their fathers' gifts. Rather, it shows the importance of a small gift for the family. How can a single person receive so much blessings by buying a small gift? #PanahianFamilyTips @PanahianEN

❤️ How careful are you of your heart? Some people are lazy in the Valley of Love. During the day, different negative loves enter their heart and they do not even notice! In other words, the door to their heart is open. For every time that we are lazy in controlling our heart, controlling it becomes harder. This should be a continuous concern for us that we wish to prevent the entry of a negative or superficial fondness. On the other hand, we must try to bring positive, deep likings into our heart. Being in love starts when you get married. How much you will love your spouse in the future depends on how much you are careful about your heart today. #PanahianFamilyTips @PanahianEN

👌🏼 Actions speak louder than words. When raising children, let us pay attention to this famous proverb, “Actions speak louder than words.” More than just talking, we must teach our child concepts by way of our actions. Consider the way numbers, addition and subtraction are taught in elementary school, where children are continuously learning math using their hands, by counting fruits, etc. For example, the concept of being orderly should be shown to children in action. They must feel that we are orderly. Suppose you are advising your child to pray while your house is cluttered and you are not praying in a timely manner. Without a doubt, this environment will greatly reduce the effect of your words. If what we tell our children is different from what they see in us, we should not expect to get the best result in training them. #PanahianFamilyTips @PanahianEN

Lasting sweetness in married life The way to achieve lasting sweetness in married life is not by looking for a flawless spouse! More than anything else, sweetness in life depends on one's good behavior even if one does not receive a good response. Looking for a flawless spouse is itself a big flaw. #PanahianFamilyTips @PanahianEN

A glorious, sacred institution In order to strengthen the family and take advantage of the opportunities it presents, we must first realize that the family is something glorious and sacred. The family is one of the most important divine blessings, and it can be a place for a person’s self-improvement and spiritual growth. The family is not something like a hotel, which is just a place for resting and eating. Rather, it is the most important place for training, practicing guardianship and serving God. #PanahianFamilyTips @PanahianEN

📌 Two important points we must pay attention to in teaching religious concepts to children 🛑 Transferring religious concepts to children is not a complicated task as long as we are careful and pay attention to a couple of simple points. 🔻 Have suitable preparation. 👉🏼 To transfer religious concepts to children, the background must be prepared first. This preparation does not mean just religious preparation. This can also be done without using religion. That is, we can talk to children based on the language they have learned throughout their lives. For example, they have seen and experienced their parent’s love. Well, this love can be used to recognize God’s love. We can tell the child, “See how kind your mother is. God is kinder than she is!” Sometimes these methods, which do not seem to be direct religious training, are more effective. 🔻 Consider the child's language. 👉🏼 We should convey religious concepts in a language that the child understands. For example, when answering a child who asks the meaning of “Subhanallah,” we should use the words that his mother uses when talking to him and that he fully understands. We can say that “Subhanallah” means God is perfect! Similarly, it is hard for a child to understand that “Allahu Akbar” means God is greater than anything we can describe. Instead of translating this literally, we can say, “God is strong and supports all of us.” The language we use must be understandable and recognizable to the child. #PanahianFamilyTips @PanahianEN

🎈Training Based on Desires #PanahianFamilyTips @PanahianEN

💭 Think about this before you marry In a family, a man and a woman, with structural and important differences, are placed next to each other, which brings sweetness and bitterness. If you have not anticipated this, you will not have the ability to enjoy its sweetness, nor will you have the capacity to tolerate and deal properly with its bitterness. #PanahianFamilyTips @PanahianEN

⏳What is the most important, effective parental behavior in raising children? #PanahianFamilyTips @PanahianEN

💡Let’s not disturb our children's calm #PanahianFamilyTips @PanahianEN

The success of all individuals in society depends on this! #PanahianFamilyTips @PanahianEN

💞If you want to have a strong love for your spouse… #PanahianFamilyTips @PanahianEN

📌Before teaching religious concepts, talk to your child about human beings and this world. #PanahianFamilyTips @PanahianEN

🌱 The important effect of “a husband loving his wife” and “a wife respecting her husband" on children #PanahianFamilyTips @PanahianEN

🔻We will have a sweet life if… The more we are able to reduce our selfishness in life, the sweeter our life will be. Let’s try to address our own shortcomings instead of paying attention to our spouse’s shortcomings. It is narrated that Imam Sadiq (as) said, “Blessed is he who is busy with his own faults to such an extent that he does not see the faults of others.” We must be continuously busy looking for our own faults. As a result of this, we will behave with our spouse better. And in most cases, this will also cause our spouse to improve too. #PanahianFamilyTips @PanahianEN

🏠Ready to go home? Some of the questions that many people ask before going on a spiritual journey are, “I want to go for Hajj. How do I take advantage of this opportunity?” or “I want to go to Karbala. How can I benefit more from this trip?” or “I want to go to Mashhad. How can I gain more from this pilgrimage to Imam Reza (as)?” I wish the following questions would become common among us, “I want to go home now. How can I benefit more from this opportunity of being with my family? How can I collect more reward while being in the family environment? How should I behave with my family at home to become more spiritual?” #PanahianFamilyTips @PanahianEN

💕Our Perception of Family #PanahianFamilyTips @PanahianEN

🏠 Do you have a plan for your home? #PanahianFamilyTips @PanahianEN

⏰ Everything at the right time! ❤️‍🩹Examples of wrong conversations between a husband and wife #PanahianFamilyTips #Video @PanahianEN